Sometimes the children ask lots of questions immediately after contact, sometimes they will ask something a few days or even weeks later. We cannot always answer their questions but when we can we try to be as honest as possible. Immediately after contact the children are often a little sad. We have found that the best thing is to give the child permission to be sad, but to remind them that we will be seeing their birth mum again. We always take photos of the children with their birth mothers and get the film developed quickly. The children then choose a photo for their room and one to send to their birth mother.