It often neglects. In fact, in most adoption agencies, among social workers and the medical community in general, we are not ready not careful, we do not know, it does not recognize its existence, but it does indeed exist.

According to a survey conducted by the Eastern European Adoption Coalition (EEAC), 65% of adoptive mothers are grieving. It threatens any new adoptive parent and adoptive parent who is in the second adoption or more. Why?

It is recognized without doubt that the post-partum depression exists and it is largely due to hormonal changes. It strikes in its benign form, 50 to 80% of mothers who give birth. For parents who adopt, the reason for postadoption depression is not related to hormonal changes. It derives rather its origins in the pre long journey, waiting and long-awaited arrival of an adopted child.

Most adoptive parents have gone for years by the turmoil at the top and bottom of infertility. Most adoptive parents were forced to live in the mourning of the biological child and then turn to adoption.

The pre-stage, international adoptions, pending frenetic, the thousand and one questions that burst from both sides on the child ahead to the time of departure, travel arrangements, travel in a foreign land, and finally the arrival of the child or attendant with his parents, jet lag, culture shock, language barriers, medical problems, all conditions are met, over a period of time more or less extended, which increases the stress at a very high level.

A crazy moment of happiness, euphoria. Friends, relatives, gifts tributary. Then the shock of reality: this child is here to stay. That is no longer the child who tenderly looked on the picture and who were sent "blown beaks." It disrupts lifestyle. The dreams, unrealistic expectations, the meeting with the child who is slow to materialize, lack of sleep, the shock of reality, and sometimes the disappointment of having a child that is not consistent with that derived from his imagination strike the full brunt of the adoptive parents. Everything is not as good nor as rosy unimagined. Many parents feel guilty for having feelings of ambivalence, resentment and anger towards their child. The popular belief of love and commitment is a snapshot imaginary and very unrealistic. After the euphoria of the beginning, there is a succession of moments, often difficult, discovery and adjustment to the child. According to parents interviewed in the investigation of the EEAC, the genuine commitment to child spread over a period ranging from two to six months.

The lack of preparation for the arrival of an adopted child and a lack of support once the child arrived as it exists in the case of a birth, ie the various services offered prenatal and postnatal in the community, helping to worsen the situation depression. The entourage does not understand why, after so long awaited and long wanted this child, a person also feels depressed. At the risk of disappointing and upsetting their entourage, several adoptive parents so their silent suffering, pain often accompanied by disappointment, remorse, shame and guilt.

The majority of adoptive parents who adopt children, most of the time, are no longer newborns, so who are older, who have a history of unknown history and who often lived in an institutional setting. All adoptive parents adopting children who have suffered, to one degree or another, loss and abandonment. The children often have difficulties and problems of a school, neurological, psychological and medical. It is not uncommon that the child shall attach only one parent. The parent neglected feels sad, disappointed and rejected.A sense of frustration, helplessness and anxiety can invade the parent.

According to the survey of the EEAC, 77% of participants said they felt the effects of depression for a period ranging from two to twelve months, and of these, 45% for six months or more.